After having 3 children, some mothers asked Palm if she needed a nanny, how many nannies she had, what to do, did her children depend on the nanny, did she need to bring a nanny when she went on a trip, and where did she find the nanny? Let me start by saying that I am not an expert on having a nanny. I just started having one when I was pregnant with my third child. Before that, my husband and I took care of our children together. So, I would like to share my experience with you about Common Questions Parents Ask a Nanny, in case it is useful for other mothers.
Is a nanny required?
This depends on the necessity and management of each family’s home. There are many factors, such as the number of children, age, physical health, whether you are pregnant, whether you work outside the home, whether you have family or relatives to help, or the budget is also important.
How many nannies does Palm have and what do they have to do?
There is one nanny. I had one when I was pregnant with my third child. At that time, I had bleeding and had to bend down and look up. I couldn’t handle it anymore. My husband had to help look after my oldest child, Nong Thamdee. At that time, I had the nanny help look after Nong Kitdee. I focused on keeping an eye out, running after him, and helping him look after his safety because he was at the age where he could walk but not very well yet. The rest of the time, I helped pick up things, prepare various things, and clean his toys. When I was in Bangkok, if I went out, the nanny would go with me. But if I went upcountry, sometimes I had a lot of stuff, so Palm would sometimes have the maid help. As for overseas, I always do things by myself. I’ve never had a nanny help.
Are your children attached to the nanny?
This depends on each family. In Palm’s family, she doesn’t have a nanny, but she accepts when she has to be with someone. But if she can choose, most of the time, she will choose to play with her parents first. Because I have to tell you that even though we have a nanny, Palm and Peach take turns playing with the child all day because we work from home. There are only times when we have to work together, so we let the nanny play with us. So it’s like we take care of the child ourselves. When it’s bedtime, we put the child to bed by ourselves every night. Or if there are some important events that require us to go out, we will have our family and relatives come over to help look after the child. We don’t leave the child alone at home with the nanny. Therefore, it means that our child is under our watch almost all the time. So we don’t worry about the child’s safety or the nanny’s attachment because we are always there for the child. No matter where the child turns, they see their parents and smile sweetly at each other all day long. ^^
Things I want to share
– Palm believes that having a nanny is not a problem that will cause children to have bad habits. If we specify that they follow our rules, what we like, what we want the nanny to do and not do, specify it clearly. For example, do not play with the phone during work time. Do not let our children see their phones at all.
– If your child is getting older, you may not want a nanny at first. You need to give your child time to adjust, sometimes for months.
– When the nanny starts to stay for a long time, sometimes the child has a chance to become more attached to the nanny. For example, some days the child seems attached to the nanny and doesn’t care about her. Palm herself will not hold it in to resentment or compare herself to the nanny, saying that the child loves the nanny, doesn’t love us, doesn’t want us. It will make us feel upset because it is normal for children at each age. Their moods can change all the time. We must first be confident that no matter what the parent is, they are the best for their child, no matter what the child’s mood is. We send love to our child every day, hug, kiss, don’t push our child away, pay attention to our child, and when we have time, play with our child, help be a support, solve problems for our child because the person who knows our child best is us.
– If your child really is attached to the nanny, think that she raised your child well, so your child will love her, which is good. We need a nanny to help share the burden, not just make us suffer more.
Where can I find a nanny?
Talked to a senior with experience. He recommended a center called Kiidu. So I tried contacting them without comparing them to other places. They provided excellent service, sending me the resumes of many nannies to choose from. Palm chose one to interview and has been working with me since then until now, more than a year has passed. She was the first nanny who came to work with my child and I liked her immediately. I have never changed until now. I consider myself lucky because many mothers have told me that they had to change many nannies before finding the right one.
Above I said that I don’t have much experience in this matter, but I wrote a long post again. If anyone reads it, please leave 1 comment?? ? Thank you to my lovely sister, Aoy, for recommending this center (I didn’t tag her, you’ll probably see it, right? I’m afraid it might disturb your privacy). Thank you very much to Kiidu Center as well, for sending a good nanny to our home. If anyone is looking for a nanny and doubtful about Common Questions Parents Ask a Nanny. Please contact me. I’ve tagged this page for you…..
